When water gets caught in habitual whirlpools
dig a way out through the bottom
to the ocean. There is a secret medicine
given only to those who hurt so hard
they can’t hope.
The hopers would feel slighted if they knew.
Look as long as you can at the friend you love,
no matter whether that friend is moving away from you

or coming back toward you.


(thank you, Deena)

Buddha deals with anger

One day the Buddha was passing through a village and he sat down with his large monastic following to rest. He began to teach and as soon as the Buddha started talking many people gathered around to hear him.    One grumpy man was on the outskirts. Maybe he was mad about the Buddha blocking local traffic or was just sick of seeing spiritual teachers coming through his small town. He began to yell at the Buddha, accusing him of being a charlatan. The Buddha wasn’t fazed by this attack though. He remained ever-loving and calm. Finally, when the guy wouldn’t shut up, he asked a simple question of the grumpy man. “If you purchased a gift for someone,” the Buddha inquired, “but that person did not accept the gift, to whom would it belong?” The man was taken by surprise by this question. “I guess it would still belong to me, because I bought it, right?” “That’s exactly right,” said the Buddha. “In the same way, if you offer me anger but I don’t accept your curses and accusations, not getting angry in return, then isn’t the anger you offer returned to you, its owner?” The grumpy man was overwhelmed and bowed to the Buddha. The Buddha continued, “As a mirror reflects an object, as a still lake reflects the sky—take care that what you speak or act is for good. For goodness will always cast back goodness.”

– from Love Hurts: Buddhist Advice for The Heartbroken

It is your choice

Will you engage this moment with kindness or with cruelty, with love or with fear, with generosity or scarcity, with a joyous heart or an embittered one? This is your choice and no one can make it for you. If you choose kindness, love, generosity, and joy, then you will discover in that choice the Kingdom of God, heaven, nirvana, this-worldly salvation. If you choose cruelty, fear, scarcity, and bitterness, then you will discover in that choice the hellish states of which so many religions speak. These are not ontological realities tucked away somewhere in space—these are existential realities playing out in your own mind. Heaven and hell are both inside of you. It is your choice that determines just where you will reside.